My OKC Profile: Dec-2015

 

My self-summary

 

You’ve answered 1301 questions
99.9 % – Highest match possible
Where is my 99.9% match !?!?!? lol

You don’t have to be 99% match,
just more then 78% match
and less than 22% enemy… overall

Match categories, must be at-least

75% on Ethics questions

75% on Sex questions

75% on Religion questions

75% on Lifestyle questions

75% on Dating questions

75% on Other questions

I’m not here for an e-relationship. I do believe in getting to know each other over the phone for some time before meeting in person; but if we don’t meet within 6 months, we are wasting our time.

Bare in mind that I am not on here all that often. I am recently ( Dec. 2015 ) because I am towards the end of my six month paid subscription and I have two profiles that are above 95% match to me that I am reading, studying, and answering their questions to see who stays 95+ match to me. (It was four profiles, now it’s two)

Normally I only come here when I get an email notification; so if you like me and you meet my specks, you might want to send me a “hello” or something to get my attention. Because otherwise, I tend to stay pretty busy. That being said; If I start to hit it off with someone, I wont be all that interested in talking to anyone else unless for whatever reason they don’t work out.

If it looks like I am stocking your profile; I may be actually reading your stuff, and/or answering your questions. If you are not interested in me, “HIDE” me, don’t waste either of our time; I will do the same for you. I’m not the nice guy you “say” you’re looking for, nor am I the bad boy you are actually looking for; I am somewhere in between.

I’m looking for my life partner. Someone to care for; someone to love and share with my hopes, my dreams & my sorrows. Someone who knows a relationship is a work of art, something that you strive together in building and molding it into place.

I have been single and celibate for over a year, I have not even been on a single date. I pay over a grand a month in child support and I believe in productivity; so I don’t get out much and I work a lot. I am almost done paying child support, so in another three years, I can relax a little and have more free time for extra curricular activities.

Oops, I take that back. I have been on one date, it you consider it a date. Sorry, I forgot about this one… I met a girl off PrepperDate in Texas and I happen to be in the area and had time to visit. So I parked my big rig in the grocery store parking lot that she shops at… We went shopping together, and hung out for 30 minutes afterwards.

Then later I found out that she was in an long distance “e-relationship” with a dude from Amsterdam the whole time, but was having issues with him. So I ended up becoming her shrink. Which is fine, because I realize she is not for me anyway…

I almost had two other dates last spring/summer; but one got cold feet and the other one had serious issues and was playing games, so I 86’s her. I ended up getting stuck in the friends zone with the other one, we had one of those “e-relationships” that I am not looking for. Which is too bad, because she was the most astrologically compatible women I have found in the past year; but we are still e-friends and that’s cool I guess. We do still have a lot in common, we just didn’t click; so I am still looking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=an0j7_zu9vI

I am actually getting to the point to where I am not even sure I really want to begin another relationship. But I have not totally given up hope… I am looking for Mrs. Right, NOT Miss right now… I am healthy, fit and active. I am not 100% Vegan, nor 100% Kosher; but I lean in that direction. I DO NOT subscribe to modern medicines and am not interested in someone who does.

You MUST be healthy, attractive, fit and active. Must NOT subscribe to modern medicine, and MUST NOT subscribe to the new world order philosophies. Must not weigh more then I do; if we are not mutually attracted to one another, it’s not going to work. Must be an intellectual, must NOT be a heavy or regular drinker, MUST NOT be an alcoholic or drunkard. MUST NOT be a couch potato, moocher, welfare recipient and/or drug addict.

Must be within 50mi or willing to relocate. I am buying land and working on an OffGrid Organic Farm & Retreat 5mi north of Stockton, so I am not willing to relocate myself. If you see or hear me say “we” anywhere, that is more then likely me talking about my business partners or my friend David-Ray who is helping me with most of my projects.

David-Ray is a lot like me and he is also single and looking, he also has a profile here as well. If you want more kids, you might want to talk to him. I am a proud member of the clip-club, so no more kids for me. If you have kids but don’t want anymore, I’m good with that. I am generally good with kids, I just don’t want any more of my own.

Actually; one of my business partners is single too, but I don’t know where he hangs out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUwN1kKIr-M

Looks are nice, but I am much deeper then that. I don’t judge or date women by looks alone, I am not that trivial. Yes you need to be attractive; not like supper hot or anything, but above average and hot enough to get my attention. But again, that is only like 10% of what I look for in qualifying women. I am not supper picky, but I do have standards.

 

What I’m doing with my life

 

Work (I am a HazMat Tanker Trucker out of Coal City, IL.. so I’m in Chicago a lot). Next year I am looking at going back to Erickson out of Springfield so I can be closer to home more often, or a company in Omaha who also will have me home more often; both companies pay better then where I am currently. I am still just weighing my options. I will be doing HazMat till I get done paying child support, only because I cannot afford to do much anything else. Once I am done paying child support, I will more then likely NOT be doing HazMat anymore.

I am also a Freedom Fighter, I own two acres in a community project and now buying another 15 acres for my own projects in Cedar County, Mo. I am working on setting up an off grid organic hippie, totally self sufficient farm/retreat.

I’m into Astrology, Psychology, Theology, Prepping, Herbology, Aromatherapy, Getting Of The Grid, Wild Eatables, Organic Farming, I.T. & etc…

I am not a “Prepper” per-say myself, I am more of a Survivalist. I do believe in the philology of expecting the best, but preparing for the worst.

**** I’m not here for an e-relationship. ****

 

I’m really good at

 

TMI (too much information). I have a love hate relationship with OKC because it allows me to TMI and I TMI too much. So I am working to condense things down and making any questions I TMI’d on private. Also some things that are “private and/or person” I marked private too, and mostly things I felt compelled to write a novel on in the explanation section.

If you’re looking for someone who is transparent and honest to a fault, you found him. Otherwise, I am also good at the fallowing:

Alternative health, Alternative energy & Alternative thinking. Like Astrology, Psychology, Herbology, Aromatherapy and more…

I am good at listening, learning, analyzing, I tend to pay attention to detail, I am good at TMI, being honest to a fault, I can be critical (Capricorn will appropriate me cause they tend to be more critical), I am good at being innovative, creative, inspiring. I use to be really good at writing music and poetry.

(Of course everyone will say they are really good at the private things; that’s for me to know, and for you to maybe find out.)

I am also good at spotting fake profiles and scammers on the internet; unfortunately, I am not as good at doing this in the non virtual world. I am however getting better at it. AntiCriminalClub.com

 

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

 

Books: Astrology (duh), Psychology, Herbology, Aromatherapy, Relationship oriented, Religions of most sorts, Philosophy, Success and Motivational, Self Help, Self Awareness, Self Healing, Metaphysical, etc…What is the common denominator? “Educational”.Sell Your Weeds:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zaWqntIxJ5MEat Your Weedies:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDljI5E8igI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6RSVnDHjVk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ern6vW1F5Lg

I don’t watch much TV:
Movies: Anything except “Scary Movies”! I even like chick flicks 🙂 Oh, Spoofs; I DON’T like Spoofs! Most of them anyway, I think they are stupid.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ym1HWuHJQTE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHu1WxQ7tBU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOTn_q_8QTA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IePEbgmQyO8

Shows: Pretty much the same. I am really into Orphan Black right now…

I am a major YouTuber, otherwise I typically only like TV/movies if I am cuddling on the couch with special someone spending quality time together if that’s her idea of quality time or she is into TV more then me.

Music: Most anything – Rock, Rap, Country, Classical, Pop; anything but Polka type music.

Basically I like most anything except Contemporary Christian, Polka type music and most traditional Mariachi Band Latino type music. I can do tradition Christian, hymnal type music, modern Christian Rap/Rock, modern Latino or other Latino music that is not Polka type sounding.

I am creating a new Playlist of random favorites just for you:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMAzstG5O7E&list=PLIqnTQqs5fkmj7onNmDZsUDe8WqzOS6r2

Food: Most anything – I try to eat as raw as possible, but that’s not always easy. I forage and study wild eatables. I am also a meat eater, but I don’t eat raw meat… I try and eat all things as natural and organic as possible, as God intended it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3aDV7NhvJI&index=41&list=UUz14Eg69bZSiyeDuTXml6_w

The six things I could never do without

 

1) Besides God, Food, Air, Water, Earth, Fire & TP?

2) You! That’s why I’m here. & other loved ones like Family & Friends.

3) Mother earth, Essential Oils, Herbs, Minerals & Vitamins

4) My phone, computer & other techno.

5) Music & YouTube.
(I typically have 6-12 YouTube windows/tabs open at a time)
Mostly educational stuff and music (playlists usually).

6) Advertising material, I am an obsessive compulsive advertiser.

 

I spend a lot of time thinking about

 

Jesus was born in September, not December. How many other lies are they brainwashing us into believing???

How I really want to answer “it depends” for 50% of these questions.

Free Food & medicine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3aDV7NhvJI&index=41&list=UUz14Eg69bZSiyeDuTXml6_w

Astrology: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpyFOQASKZg&list=PLIqnTQqs5fkm0FMiwhLU6fgfNdaVN3g_y

1 Corinthians, Revelation, the missing books from the Bible, truth (I am a truth seeker), fitness, business, friends & family, Alternative health, Alternative energy & Alternative thinking…

Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wU0PYcCsL6o

Theology:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAzaT_pKUfY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iveFt8OhXBw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6M1b36KbHs

Note: Beware the forum section, Narcissists hang out there. Unless you have Troll Armor, look but do not post.

 

On a typical Friday night I am

 

Working, working out, studying, relaxing or sleeping… sometimes hanging out with friends.

***Something Private I am willing to admit***

I never really could get into BDSM. I try and keep an open mind; but to honest, most if it kind of weirds me out. I just took a BDMS/Kink test and this would give you an idea of my character. Here was my results:

== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
86% Switch
76% Rigger
73% Vanilla
68% Dominant
67% Primal (Hunter)
65% Rope Bunny
60% Voyeur
59% Submissive
58% Experimentalist
52% Primal (Prey)
44% Exhibitionist
42% Master/Mistress
38% Non-monogamist
36% Brat Tamer
33% Daddy/Mommy
23% Owner
22% Ageplayer
20% Brat
13% Girl/Boy
12% Sadist
11% Slave
9% Masochist
6% Pet
2% Degrader
1% Degradee
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=1023474

I’d say it’s about 80% accurate. I sort of like to be hunted more then I like the hunt. When a woman I am attracted to comes after me, that gets my attention way more then most anything. I love strong and assertive women! I am more dominant then submissive, though I don’t appear to be; so that throws people off.

I use to be Poly, so I am sure the “non-monogamous” percentage would have been higher in the past. I am more monogamist now. The only way I would go back to being Poly is that “IF” my partner was bi and wanted both male and females mates for life partners (Closed V Polyfidelity Triad). Otherwise, I am pretty much not interested in any other Poly dynamic for my personal life. Though I am still an advocate for the Poly Community, I feel no real need to be “active” in the community anymore.

I went from like 88% Poly to 38% over the last few years; mostly because I had a bad experience I guess, just like a lot of you have had I am sure. I would come back into the fold sort of speak under the right conditions; but otherwise, I am content with being “mono” for the rest of my life.

Now… Even though I am no longer Poly, I am still an advocate for The Poly Community. I am open minded to most peoples different relationship dynamic preferences, even though I don’t subscribe to most of them myself; as long as they are “mutual” and “consensual”. So even though I am not Poly anymore, if you are not open minded towards others 1st amendment rights, we are probably not right for one another.

 

You should message me if

 

(12.5.2015 – To be honest; I am not good at initiating conversation, so that is probably why I have not messaged you yet. 99x out of 100, I probably wont contact you first, so you might want to give me some sort of signal to show interest if your not going to say anything first either.) I am not a shy person, I tend to be fairly assertive and aggressive; just not when it come to meeting women. I am just weird like that.

OK, I just now (2015-09-23) found this on another woman’s profile and she endorses this 100% and checks out every guy using that site before communicating with them, so I thought I would share this with you: http://dontdateaplayer.com/Pages/busted/busted-profiles-okcupid.aspx. Not sure if this is all real or just a place to slam people, but it is worth looking into.

At that; you should also check out TinEye, and other “Catfish” “Romance Scammer” sites and software. I have an I.T. business and I am working on putting together a team of Catfish Hunters to also help stop these romance scammers, but right now I am only a team of two. I do have one guy helping me screen people on my date line, but we aren’t set up yet to do support for other sites; maybe some day in the future… AntiCriminalClub.com

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Besides my sites, OKC is one of my favorites – If you like me, “Like” my profile, if we are at least 78% match, less then 22% enemy and you have answered more then just a dozen or so questions, we have “Mutual Likes” and you are within 50 mile from me or you are willing to relocate; then we shall talk. I live closer to Springfield and next year I’m looking at going back to work for Erickson out of Springfield; but I still have family, my I.T. business and business partners are in KC where I recently moved from. So one of those two places are second best.

I’m looking for Astrological Compatibility. I am still learning, but if I am learning right… I need someone born Aquarius, Pisces, Aries or Taurus & between 1765-1773 or 1980-1985. Preferably someone on the Cusp like me, an Aries / Taurus Cusp might be best.

I am looking for someone healthy, fit, active, thin, trim & attractive. You don’t need to be a super model or MPDG. OK; maybe an MPDG, lol. No but I must find you to be attractive and you must be no thicker then me. Must be into Alternative health and NOT Modern “Sick Care” medicines! Into alternative energy and alternative thinking. Oh, and race is not an issue.

Even though I am not here “looking” for friends, I am willing to connect with people for friends and/or business if you are at least 75% match, less then 25% enemy. If your looking to just be friend and/or business, FaceBook me. This is a date, lets keep it that way; thanx!

If you are single or Poly and want to talk astrology, CLICK HERE; otherwise CLICK HERE. I also have a FREE astrology birth calculator on both site. I have been studying astrology for relationships and compatibility for over 5 years, and I also do astrological counseling since I have also studied psychology for 30 years. I am also really good at helping people in Poly relationships.

You should message me if your goal is to get off this site rather than just being a serial internet pretender. And you if want to meet in person! I like to cut to the chase to see if there is compatibility as well as other forms of compatibility, like astrology. I don’t have the time or patience to spend my time on the computer “chatting” indefinitely with a stranger. I am a social creature…. I am not looking for pen pals!

First date….Dinner and conversation to see if there is a romantic connection. It should be understood that this date is just a get together in a non sexual way and nothing more. A second date would be based upon mutual connection, chemistry and validated interest. I will not mislead you and wish not to be misled or play games.

P.S. If you don’t look like your pictures you are buying me drinks until you do! LOL; that last part was a joke, I wont let you get me that drunk.

I’d rather meet before the imaginary relationship gets too serious.

Fuck Yes or No

Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?

There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous.

“She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?”
“Well, I know she likes me, but she didn’t call me back last weekend, what should I do?”
“He treats me well when he’s around, but he’s hardly around. What does that mean?”

Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Say this line. Text her this. Call him this many times. Wear that.

Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where some men and women actually spend more time analyzing behaviors than actually, you know, behaving.

Frustration with this grey area also drives many people to unnecessary manipulation, drama and game-playing. This is where you get rules about making men pay for this many dates before you can become intimate. Or how men need to transition from attraction phase to comfort phase by qualifying three times before they’re allowed to commence an escalation ladder.

These things may seem clever and exciting to some people who are stuck or frustrated. But this dating advice misses the point. If you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost.

Let me ask again: Why would you ever be excited to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? If they’re not happy with you now, what makes you think they’ll be happy to be with you later? Why do you make an effort to convince someone to date you when they make no effort to convince you?

What does that say about you? That you believe you need to convince people to be with you?

You wouldn’t buy a dog that bites you all the time. And you wouldn’t be friends with someone who regularly ditches you. You wouldn’t work a job that doesn’t pay you. Then why the hell are you trying to make a girlfriend out of a woman who doesn’t want to date you? Where’s your self-respect?

The entrepreneur Derek Sivers once wrote a blog post where he said, “If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.” It served him well in the business world and now I’d like to apply it to the dating world. And because I’m more of a vulgar asshole than Derek is, I’ll christen mine The Law of “Fuck Yes or No.”

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

As you can see, The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” implies that both parties must be enthusiastic about the prospect of one another’s company. Why? Because attractive, non-needy, high self-worth people don’t have time for people who they are not excited to be with and who are not excited to be with them.

This may sound a bit idealistic to some. But The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” has many tangible benefits on your dating life:

  1. No longer be strung along by people who aren’t that into you. End all of the headaches. End the wishing and hoping. End the disappoint and anger that inevitably follows. Start practicing self-respect. Become the rejector, not the rejected.
  2. No longer pursue people you are so-so on for ego purposes. We’ve all been there. We were so-so about somebody, but we went along with it because nothing better was around. And we all have a few we’d like to take back. No more.
  3. Consent issues are instantly resolved. If someone is playing games with you, playing hard to get, or pressuring you into doing something you’re unsure about, your answer is now easy. Or as I often like to say in regards to dating, “If you have to ask, then that’s your answer.”
  4. Establish strong personal boundaries and enforce them. Maintaining strong boundaries not only makes one more confident and attractive, but also helps to preserve one’s sanity in the long-run.
  5. Always know where you stand with the other person. Since you’re now freeing up so much time and energy from people you’re not that into, and people who are not that into you, you now find yourself perpetually in interactions where people’s intentions are clear and enthusiastic. Sweet!

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is applicable to dating, sex, relationships, even friendships. You may have absolutely nothing in common with that bartender. But they’re hot and are interested in getting down. Is it a “Fuck Yes!” for sex? It is? Then game on.

Wrapped up in that sweet guy who treats you so well, except goes weeks without calling you and suddenly disappears after a couple drinks and a round of the horizontal polka? Been wondering if he really likes you? Do his excuses of being so busy all the time seem legit? It doesn’t sound like the answer is a “Fuck yes.” Then it’s time to move on.

Making out with a girl at your house and every time you go to take her shirt off she swats your hands away? That is not a “Fuck Yes,” my friend, therefore, it’s a no and you shouldn’t pressure her. The best sex is “Fuck Yes” sex — i.e., both people are shouting “Fuck Yes” as they hop between the sheets together. If she’s not hopping, then there’s no fucking.

(Hint Fellas: This is a great time to ask the girl why she’s not comfortable, and what she’s looking for from you. That, by itself — you know, treating her like a human and empathizing with her — often solves this “problem.”)

Want to date that woman you met last weekend but she keeps ignoring your texts and calls? Not sure what to say or do, especially since she seemed so happy to go out with you when you initially met her? Well, my friend, this is obviously not a “Fuck Yes.” Therefore, it is a “No.” Delete her number and move on.

Fuck Yes or No applies to relationships as well. My girlfriend works with a guy who got married because “it seemed like the right thing to do.” Four years later, he was cheating on his wife every chance he got. The marriage was not a Fuck Yes for him, therefore it should have been a No.

Sometimes The Law of Fuck Yes or No will apply differently on different levels. You may be a “Fuck Yes” for friendship with someone, but mildly excited to have sex with them. Therefore, it’s a no. You may be a “Fuck Yes” on banging someone’s brains out, but a definite “No” on actually spending any time with them. Apply the law to your decision-making as it suits your current needs.

Fuck Yes or No doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be falling in knee-wobbling love at first sight. It doesn’t even mean you have be completely convinced that someone is right for you. You can be “Fuck Yes” about getting to know someone better. You can be “Fuck Yes” about seeing someone again because you think there’s something there. You can be “Fuck Yes” about giving things a few months to pan out and see if you can fix the problems in the relationship.

The point is: both you and the other person need to be fuck yes about something, otherwise you’re just wasting your time.

A common Fuck Yes response from a woman. Flowers and all.
A common Fuck Yes response from a woman. Flowers and all.

But the real beauty of The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is that it simplifies the problems you can have in your dating life. When applying the Law of “Fuck Yes or No,” there are really only two problems one can have.

The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.

Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate. So get on it. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with everyone who breathes in your direction. It just means you need to take responsibility for your ability to connect with the people you are meeting.

The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them. If all of the people you pursue give you a mild response, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself. Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you? If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work. Build yourself into a person others would say “Fuck Yes” to.

And this is the ultimate dating advice lesson — man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real dating advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to con somebody into sleeping with you, dating you, even marrying you. But you will have won the battle by sacrificing the war, the war of long-term happiness.