Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?

There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous.

“She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?”
“Well, I know she likes me, but she didn’t call me back last weekend, what should I do?”
“He treats me well when he’s around, but he’s hardly around. What does that mean?”

Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Say this line. Text her this. Call him this many times. Wear that.

Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where some men and women actually spend more time analyzing behaviors than actually, you know, behaving.

Frustration with this grey area also drives many people to unnecessary manipulation, drama and game-playing. This is where you get rules about making men pay for this many dates before you can become intimate. Or how men need to transition from attraction phase to comfort phase by qualifying three times before they’re allowed to commence an escalation ladder.

These things may seem clever and exciting to some people who are stuck or frustrated. But this dating advice misses the point. If you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost.

Let me ask again: Why would you ever be excited to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? If they’re not happy with you now, what makes you think they’ll be happy to be with you later? Why do you make an effort to convince someone to date you when they make no effort to convince you?

What does that say about you? That you believe you need to convince people to be with you?

You wouldn’t buy a dog that bites you all the time. And you wouldn’t be friends with someone who regularly ditches you. You wouldn’t work a job that doesn’t pay you. Then why the hell are you trying to make a girlfriend out of a woman who doesn’t want to date you? Where’s your self-respect?

The entrepreneur Derek Sivers once wrote a blog post where he said, “If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.” It served him well in the business world and now I’d like to apply it to the dating world. And because I’m more of a vulgar asshole than Derek is, I’ll christen mine The Law of “Fuck Yes or No.”

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

As you can see, The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” implies that both parties must be enthusiastic about the prospect of one another’s company. Why? Because attractive, non-needy, high self-worth people don’t have time for people who they are not excited to be with and who are not excited to be with them.

This may sound a bit idealistic to some. But The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” has many tangible benefits on your dating life:

1. No longer be strung along by people who aren’t that into you. End all of the headaches. End the wishing and hoping. End the disappoint and anger that inevitably follows. Start practicing self-respect. Become the rejector, not the rejected.
2. No longer pursue people you are so-so on for ego purposes. We’ve all been there. We were so-so about somebody, but we went along with it because nothing better was around. And we all have a few we’d like to take back. No more.
3. Consent issues are instantly resolved. If someone is playing games with you, playing hard to get, or pressuring you into doing something you’re unsure about, your answer is now easy. Or as I often like to say in regards to dating, “If you have to ask, then that’s your answer.”
4. Establish strong personal boundaries and enforce them. Maintaining strong boundaries not only makes one more confident and attractive, but also helps to preserve one’s sanity in the long-run.
5. Always know where you stand with the other person. Since you’re now freeing up so much time and energy from people you’re not that into, and people who are not that into you, you now find yourself perpetually in interactions where people’s intentions are clear and enthusiastic. Sweet!

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is applicable to dating, sex, relationships, even friendships. You may have absolutely nothing in common with that bartender. But they’re hot and are interested in getting down. Is it a “Fuck Yes!” for sex? It is? Then game on.

Wrapped up in that sweet guy who treats you so well, except goes weeks without calling you and suddenly disappears after a couple drinks and a round of the horizontal polka? Been wondering if he really likes you? Do his excuses of being so busy all the time seem legit? It doesn’t sound like the answer is a “Fuck yes.” Then it’s time to move on.

Making out with a girl at your house and every time you go to take her shirt off she swats your hands away? That is not a “Fuck Yes,” my friend, therefore, it’s a no and you shouldn’t pressure her. The best sex is “Fuck Yes” sex — i.e., both people are shouting “Fuck Yes” as they hop between the sheets together. If she’s not hopping, then there’s no fucking.

(Hint Fellas: This is a great time to ask the girl why she’s not comfortable, and what she’s looking for from you. That, by itself — you know, treating her like a human and empathizing with her — often solves this “problem.”)

Want to date that woman you met last weekend but she keeps ignoring your texts and calls? Not sure what to say or do, especially since she seemed so happy to go out with you when you initially met her? Well, my friend, this is obviously not a “Fuck Yes.” Therefore, it is a “No.” Delete her number and move on.

Fuck Yes or No applies to relationships as well. My girlfriend works with a guy who got married because “it seemed like the right thing to do.” Four years later, he was cheating on his wife every chance he got. The marriage was not a Fuck Yes for him, therefore it should have been a No.

Sometimes The Law of Fuck Yes or No will apply differently on different levels. You may be a “Fuck Yes” for friendship with someone, but mildly excited to have sex with them. Therefore, it’s a no. You may be a “Fuck Yes” on banging someone’s brains out, but a definite “No” on actually spending any time with them. Apply the law to your decision-making as it suits your current needs.

Fuck Yes or No doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be falling in knee-wobbling love at first sight. It doesn’t even mean you have be completely convinced that someone is right for you. You can be “Fuck Yes” about getting to know someone better. You can be “Fuck Yes” about seeing someone again because you think there’s something there. You can be “Fuck Yes” about giving things a few months to pan out and see if you can fix the problems in the relationship.

The point is: both you and the other person need to be fuck yes about something, otherwise you’re just wasting your time.

But the real beauty of The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is that it simplifies the problems you can have in your dating life. When applying the Law of “Fuck Yes or No,” there are really only two problems one can have.

The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.

Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate. So get on it. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with everyone who breathes in your direction. It just means you need to take responsibility for your ability to connect with the people you are meeting.

The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them. If all of the people you pursue give you a mild response, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself. Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you? If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work. Build yourself into a person others would say “Fuck Yes” to.

And this is the ultimate dating advice lesson — man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real dating advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to con somebody into sleeping with you, dating you, even marrying you. But you will have won the battle by sacrificing the war, the war of long-term happiness.

 

Hello, my name is CainO’ and this is my autobiography…
My full name is David Michael Cain O’Dougherty. I have a weird and maybe usual story. I had the normal aspirations growing up as a kid; I wanted to be G.I. Joe, I wanted to be a cop, James Bond and so on. I have always wanted to be a “somebody”; that might be explained by my 11th house.

 

I got the name CainO’ Trump from my former Realtor because I was a Donald Trump fan and was working my way in real estate at the time. I am not so much a Trump fan anymore, but the name just kind of stuck.

I use to want to be rich and famous for whatever reasons; but in my pursuit to make something of myself so that I can take care of myself and my loved ones, I lost pretty much everything that was important to me. Now days; I just want to be normal and happy, whatever that means. I still have dreams and goal, but they are not the same anymore.

 

 

This is my singles ad and resume. I am a truck driver; I grew up in trucking and now have been driving commercially myself since 1995, Tractor Trailer since 1998 and HazMat Tankers since 2006. “It’s a Family Tradition”. My mother was a trucker/bus driver, my father was in the military, my grandfather owned a trucking company as I was growing up and a lot of my relatives are farmers/truckers. My mother taught me to driver, now she works on the railroad and my father is the trucker. I’m not a fat, unhealthy trucker and I don’t subscribe to lot lizards nor to having a woman in every port.

Most truckers don’t actually fit that stereotype BS people think to we all do, just like not all women are stereotypically the same. A lot of drivers are overweight, just like a lot of people with desk jobs who don’t exercise and/or eat right. Truck stops are starting to get more health minded, the T/A, Petro’s, Pilots and Flying J’s are putting workout rooms in over 50 of their truck stop locations and the food options are somewhat getting healthier too. Lot lizards don’t even exist anymore (thank God); I hate lot lizards, they’re like cockroaches. I was looking for someone to come home to, and that option still stands; if you are within 25-50 miles from me and/or willing to relocate… But since most women want their man home all the time, I’m looking for a woman to drive with me this home on the road.

I am almost done paying child support and will soon have an extra grand a month in my pocket. I am looking to buy an over the road straight truck (Expedite) maybe in 2017 and sort of semi retire; do all the things I couldn’t afford to do the last 20 years and still make a paycheck while touring the country, actually having the time and money to stop and enjoy different locations for a change. The nice thing about the straight truck is; it is easier to get in and out of places, plus finding parking is so much easier then with a Tractor Trailer.

I am looking for a co-driver/girlfriend/business partner, activity/fitness partner and such; and future wife (not ordained under and/or sanctioned by the New World Oder). Must enjoy things like Yoga, Tie Chi, Canoeing, swimming, hiking, biking, mountain climbing, working out (in a gym) (OK, the other way too), exploring the wood, the wild, laser tag, soft air, paintball, guns, archery, martial arts and more; on our down time between loads. I also have an internet business, so I will be doing that too from time to time. If you are into that as well, that would be great but is not necessary; I have two business partners helping me with that.

About You:
For insurance purposes; you will need two years over the road experience, a clean driving record, must be able to pass a drug test, must have no failed drug tests in the past and must be able to pass a DOT physical. For CainO’ purposes; must be able to pass a FULL STD test, must be attractive, must be no thicker than me, must be fit, active and must be into alternative health. You do not have to be vegan, I am not vegan either; but as close to “raw” and “kosher” as possible is best.

Must be an assertive and defensive driver; but must NOT be an aggressive driver. Must be able to get along with others (especially in an 8×12 box), must hate fighting, must be a team player, and most of all; must NOT be an alcoholic. Non-drug user and non-gambler too, BTW. Must have good hygiene!!! Must pick up and clean up after yourself, I will not be your maid nor do I need one myself. Must be able to drive long distances in all types of terrains; rain, snow, ice, sleet, fog, hail, crazy drivers/traffic, back roads, mountains and more. Must be an intellectual and not so much into drama. If you like to do dishes, that would be a plus; that is the only thing I do not like doing (don’t know why, just one of the things I have to work on). I do them, I just don’t like to; never have.

You can live anywhere in the U.S.; if Mexican or Canadian resident, must have dual citizenship and I will work on doing the same. We can alternate home times if both homes are not close to one another. I also have an off grid, organic, survivalist, hippie farm/retreat my friends and I are working on (that is my retirement plan); so that is what I do when I am home. The only things that will be on the grid are phones, snail mail and internet. We will be producing our own food, medicine and utilities for the most part. If you are into that too, that would be great. We are less than 10 miles from Lake Stockton and there are plenty of shindigs we can be a part of there too, or we can throw our own.

Must be able to drive a standard “Eaton Fuller” transmission, must have a class B license; a class A license is preferred. TWIC, HazMat & passport are a plus; but I personally would like to get rid of mine, so I wouldn’t expect you to get that unless the company requires it. If you’re not in the U.S., then we will both need our passports of course. Astrologically compatible would be a plus, race and hair color is not an issue. I am NOT looking for a housewife; I make a better house wife/husband than 90% of my exes and past predicts future, so I am not looking for another one of those.

I am looking for someone who is equally yoked in the “ERA” and “biblical” since. I am not your standard issue textbook Christian; I subscribe to many beliefs like Judaism, Hindu, Buddhism, Unity, LDS, RLDS, FLDS, Native American, Spiritualism and more, but Christianity is my foundation. I am “Othertarian” – “Othertarianism” or Chrictian-Other… I am looking for a “Partner”, a Switch if you may; not a Sub nor a Dom. Someone I would be proud to call, “My Better Half”. If you are a good bookkeeper, that too would be a bonus.

If you are within 25-50 miles and/or willing to relocate and be the one I come home to, then all but the driving qualifications still apply. Astrologically; an Aries/Taurus cusp in the year of the Horse or a Sagittarius/Capricorn cusp in the year of the Dog would be best, but they are not the only astrological options. Any questions? Message me!

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Any relationship, all relationships are about teamwork. Teamwork makes the dream work! If the people around you are not working with you, they are working against you. In retrospect; if you are not working with them, you are working against them. I don’t rescue so much anymore. I do hand ups and if they don’t actively help themselves, I make them and refuse to offer hand outs. They have 2options, help themselves or drown themselves. I am done letting people take me down with the ship.

I seek wisdom and offer wisdom. I choose to not be a rescuer anymore, I want a partner not an ankle weight. I won’t be an enabler and I won’t be abused anymore. I am life path #4; I am a realist, I desire responsibility and I provide strengths. Everyday; find your center, become centered and be the center.

 

Some people just don’t know what it means to take responsibility!
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The way you act towards me tells me you don’t like me that you want it to be you mark and Garrett that’s how I feel and yes I do feel like a lot of Mark and Garrett’s problems are from how you raised them not saying it’s wrong or right saying that sometimes we think it’s the right thing as a parent/grandma and it’s not I’ve done the same thing as a parent but I can admit what I did when Garrett came to us he had no discipline you gave me a monkey with a strap on his back because you couldn’t take him in the store without him running off not saying this to say you’re a bad parent/person I’m tryingto work this out with you so that we can get along you send me stuff all the time but when I say something you take offense you’re not even willing to listen therefore it tells me that you’re not wanting to make amends you want to take offense it takes a bigger person to admit when there wrong
The way I addressed it was probably not the right way but I got a lot going on and no I’m not Garretts mom but I have his last name and if I take him into the school or to the doctor they don’t question me I don’t have to have Mark and I feel like you think that I’m coming in and trying to take over because you’ve always had control over it what does it matter who’s right or wrong the thing I love about Mark is that he realizes when he’s wrong and he’ll admit it and say he’s sorry just like I do to him as wellI I have taught Garrett a lot and he’s taught me a lot but the behavior he had when he come down here didn’t happen overnight it has been there for a while and Mark is guilty to letting him have his way and given him too many chances I know you love Garrett with everything in you and would never do anything to purposely hurt him or his futureI just want to work together with you
so that he can grow up and be an awesome young man that he’s not crippled by ADHD bipolar ODD everybody seen the way Garrett was acting when he was in Kansas city Wyatt didn’t even like being around his brother because he was so bad and if I thought that you were going tomess him up I would not have told Mark okay let’s send him because he is marks and my son Mark has wanted to do it for a while but I didn’t want to because he’s our son and I love him as my own and I can admit that I can’t do it right now because I am too sick I just want us all to get alongi’m not saying this just to say you’re a bad parent/grandma I like you and want to get along would like to move closer so that you can be around mark and Garrett and that Mark and Garrett can have a relationship with Matt Wyatt Josie and Maranda I want Mark to see his children and Garrett to be around his brothers and sisters so
please don’t take this the wrong wayI want to hang out with you shop all of us to do things with the kids but I feel like you put a wall up around me so can we please talk this out so that we don’t have this wall between usI would like you and I to be close i’m not a mean hateful person i’m actually a fun person I just want to have a mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship if you let me in I love you Mark Garrett Wyant Matt Miranda and Josie

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I’m not naming names, but this was sent to my mother today.

www.ThePolyCommunity.com – In the LDS church we went to this morning; they said that Joseph Smith restored the church as it was when Jesus himself founded it, and this is now the true church of Jesus Christ. Yet; Joseph Smith practiced Polygamy and I have herd repeatedly that Jesus did away with Polygamy, and so did the LDS… However; the LDS church only did away with it because the United Soviet States of Americas communist government made them do it, or else. So none of that makes any since!

I am not for not against it necessarily, I do know it’s not for everyone. Not everyone in it is doing it for the right reasons, not everyone can handle it; so I don’t think it is a commandment. More like a choice or maybe destiny, I believe some people have the astrological make up to be more Poly, so you might be able to say some was born that way. It is said that GLBT can be found in ones astrology, but I don’t believe it is genetic. I think we are born with attributes that allow of to go in different directions the others more easily, some “broad” paths are predestined, the rest is choice and/or free will.

I have never bought into the theory that God instructs us to be in Plural Marriage nor Monogamy; I use to think that the GLBT community was “going to hell” as I was raised to believe, but I am not so sure that is true anymore. From what I understand, nobody really has a clue! We are all just trying to make since out of a Fr*ck*d up world. I do still believe is good vs evil, just not the brainwash way I was taught growing up. There are two commandments that I believe we MUST OBEY and you can find them in Matthew written in the RED text; “37: You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. 38: This is the first and great commandment. 39: And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40: On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”

A little about me…
Updated: 2015
Single again? Yeah me too…

“Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.” ― Colette Dowling ―
The beauty in the dance is flowing seamlessly with your partner. I have learned that dancing too long with the wrong partner can bring much frustration, discomfort and even pain, depending on the depth of the struggle. We are all free and responsible for choosing the partner whose energy and style flow with us best.
Hello, my name is CainO’ – most of my life I have bounced back and forth between serial monogamy and Polyamory, I’ve even tried Polyfidelity. I’ve explored many relationship dynamics and I think I am going to go back to and stick to Polyamory until I find the right astrological match for a long term monogamous relationship or matches for a long term PolyFidelity or Polygynous relationship. I don’t have to be Poly, I can go either way. If u think u might be the right astrological match or u would like a quality part time relationship in mean time, let me know. Thank you so much, CainO’

About the one I’m looking for…
Updated: 2015
Must be attractive, have a brain, have a heart, like deep intellectual conversations about things other than drama. Must not be a dictator, a Dom or even too submissive; I am a “switch” or moderate to medium in many things and looking for the same. – I am Not PolySexual – You must be a straight or bi female, must have been born a female, female gender fluid is OK but no Trans Genders.

Long term: Must be into health and nutrition, Off Gridding, a constitutionalist, Freedom fighter, or at least a Volunteerist; must be no more than a MILD drinker and non-smoker. I use to be a smoker, so I can overlook smoking before I can drinking. I will not date violent drunks ever again; stupid drunks are tolerable, violent drunks are not! Bipolar or any variation thereof is also not an option.
As for Astrological compatibility: My best two and longest relationships I have ever had: “astrologically” were 12.17.1975 Leo Rising and 5.14.1977 Gemini Rising. So as for astrological compatibility, I’m looking for better than and will be comparing astrology to those date; I am 8.20.1974 Libra Rising if you know and understand astrology.
I’d just like to add…
Astrologically – Short term I allow more exceptions.

Long term: Most sites only give you the Sun Sign or the Chinese Zodiac. I am a Leo/Virgo Cusp. Moon in Libra, Venus in Leo & Mars in Virgo… If I ask your birthday; it’s because there are other signs that we need to consider like the Ascendant, Mercury is VERY important & there are many other signs in our astrology.

My Mercury is Virgo & MERCURY is COMMUNICATION, so you should understand how important Mercury is in any type of relationship. That’s why I ask for birthdays.

I am looking for Fire or Air “Sun Signs”, Earth & Cancer would be the exception to the rule for my Sun sign. I will also be looking for Fire or Air Venus signs, Cancer & Virgo are the exceptions for my Venus in Leo. I will also be looking for Mars in Earth or Water; Leo might be the only exception I will make for this sign, pending house placement or if we were Polygynous.

Mercury will also need to be Earth or Water, I will make no exception for this one for this is Communication and I know and understand the importance of proper communication in any kind of relationship; business or personal.

IF I were to try and form another Triad, I would have to be very very picky and not accept any exceptions at all; or very little. That was one of the mistakes I didn’t know I was making the last time. Venus might be the one position I would compromise to get Water which is best for forming families.

How I feel about the Church…
Updated: Oct. 2014
Church is a good thing; only I don’t believe in one true church, or even one true profit except for Jesus. I grew up Nazarene, Wesleyan and Holiness; I studied Catholicism, Hindu, Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, Spiritualism, LDS, RLDS, FLDS, Unity and more. I use to call myself a Christian Catholic Buddhist, now I would say I am more Christian Spiritualist. In the LDS world, I would lean towards RLDS or FLDS rather than LDS and I do understand the differences. I like Buddhism because they tend to practice what Jesus preached, I just think they have the wrong god. I would say I am more in line with the natives in that I would be more inclined to believe in “The Great Spirit” and other ways they believe like loving the land and Jesus’s #2 commandment’s; Love God and Love thy neighbor.
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Astrologically – Short term I allow more exceptions.
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Long term: I’m looking at SUN, VENUS & MARS in this site. I am a Leo/Virgo Cusp. Venus in Leo & Mars in Virgo… If I ask your birthday; it’s because there are other signs that we need to consider like the Moon, Mercury is VERY important & there are many other signs in our astrology.
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My Mercury is Virgo & MERCURY is COMMUNICATION, so you should understand how important Mercury is in any type of relationship and I cannot believe this site left that one out. That’s why I ask for birthdays.
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Using this site; I am looking for Fire or Air “Sun Signs”, Earth & Cancer would be the exception to the rule for my Sun sign. I will also be looking for Fire or Air Venus signs, Cancer & Virgo are the exceptions for my Venus in Leo. I will also be looking for Mars in Earth or Water, Leo might be the only exception I will make for this sign, pending house placement.
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Mercury will also need to be Earth or Water, I will make no exception for this one for this is Communication and I know and understand the importance of proper communication in any kind of relationship; business or personal.
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I’m sure I am one of the few members who actually use astrology on this site… “Please Prove Me Wrong?”

Updated Dec. 26th, 2014

OK, I have been doing homework to confirm or deny my understanding on Christmas. Christmas is one of the things that has been waking me up over the years about many thing; September 11th was another wake up call for me, along with the truth about the Civil War and many other lies we were taught in school and even church… I am not perfect, nor do I expect you to be either. However; I am a truth seeker, so here are my finding on said research for Christ-Mass.

I knew and understood that Christmas was originally a Pagan holiday for the gods; actually the SUN GOD, not the Son of God. Over the course of fall and winter there were many festivals for the GODS all together including but not limited to Halloween. Later, approximately 300ish AD; Jesus aka Christ got added in the mix and thus the word “Christmas” came into existence. Before, the many festivals had many other names; Christmas is just another one now. No one knows the exact time when Jesus was really born; but many believe and the evidence points to it NOT being in December. I was raised with some of this truth and I have been learning the rest on my own.

XMas is NOT Xing Christ out of Christmas, yet it is an abbreviation of the Greek word XPLOTOC meaning “Christ” and in a since it is Xing out Christ but not out of Christmas.

I do not necessarily calibrate Christmas; but when I do, I do it with Dos Equis 🙂

Seriously; I have hardly celebrated Christmas since before the Millennium. When I did, I did it with understand and not ignorance. Which is said to be even worse. I have known most the truths about Christmas for many years; but went along to get along with others, just to be festive and friendly. I didn’t typically do gifts, but I do enjoy the company of friends and family on most any occasion; Christmas or otherwise.

My Ex2012 use to ridicule and pock fun at me for being a Bah Humbug and calling me Scrooge McDuck when she knew I didn’t celebrate this holiday. I knew her when she was with her Ex Husband, before she was with the Pagan guy, before she was with me and I didn’t celebrate it then either; so she knew this long before she got with me. Now for her sake, I did go along to get along and sacrificed some of my beliefs for her because she loved the Pagan holiday traditions. I hardly participated in the exchanging of gifts and maybe a few other things. But I like others; enjoy the light, the food, the carols, the greetings and the gatherings. So I did these things for her, even though she mocked me and my beliefs. As I learn more about the lies attached to this holiday, I want less and less to do with it. It never was our holiday to begin with, and people go around trying to put “Christ in Christmas” like it was taken out or something; I say we should remove Christ from Christmas whether the “Mass of Christ” is as believed or not.

Again; I pretty much knew about all the other stuff, I just now learned about the “Mass of Christ” part in 2014/2015 Cusp. Over the years I have been learning the truths about how this confusion began with mixing of Christian and Pagan holidays, rituals and traditions. Originally it was a pagan holiday, since before Jesus was born from what I understand. I also knew that the Roman Catholic Church was the ones who changed the holidays, mixing the Pagan Festivus with Christianity thus making Christmas. The scary part and the part that I am still researching; is that “Christmas” translates into “Christ Mass” or “Mass of Christ”. That doesn’t sound so bad right? Well, supposedly that translates into “Death of Christ” or “Sacrifice of Christ” not “Birth of Christ”. So when we make celebrations and say things like “HOHOHO MERRY CHRISTMAS”, what does that sound like to you now? Now that you know it means or may mean other then what you were raised to believe? Yeah, it made me sick too; still does actually.

I use to not to make a too big of a deal about it before I knew this, even parts of my own family still choose to stay brainwashed and choose to ridicule me for seeking the truth; as you may choose to do also. “It is a holiday of celebration either way you choose to celebrate it, the Pagans have their thing and we Christians have ours”, they say… I understand that here in the United Soviet States of America, this country was founded on freedom of religion; though those freedoms don’t seem to be so stable or real at the moment. And that we may also be celebrating a “New Independence Day” which may be long needed and deserved.

I say, let the Pagans have their holiday back and let’s quit trying to make it our own when it clearly is not and never was. Christ was born in September, not that Jesus wanted us to celebrate his birth; he never said to do so or not to do so. Then again, there are hundreds of books that were taken out of the bible; so how do we know? That is another story for another day; and yes, I have done my homework on that too. I started that quest around 1993.

So if you want to honor his birth, you should do so in September; do it when he was really born. If you insist on keeping this Christmas, do it for the right reasons. If Christmas truly means “Mass of Christ” or “Death of Christ” – Then honor it as he would want you to do; we should be paying our respects properly and not as it is now, NOT the ways it is currently celebrated and not for the wrong reasons.

Thank you so much, my name is CainO’ & I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE.
Here are links for you to start on your quest:
Do your own homework!

http://www.lasttrumpetministries.org/tracts/

https://www.google.com/search?q=Kwanzaa,+Hanukkah&spell=1&sa=X&ei=RwyVVIPVFOu1sASpoYD4Aw&ved=0CBwQvwUoAA&biw=1600&bih=769

https://www.google.com/search?q=Pagan+gods&oq=Pagan+gods&gs_l=serp.3..0i67l9j0.11952.15970.0.17595.4.4.0.0.0.0.1069.2032.2-1j2j7-1.4.0.msedr…0…1c.1.60.serp..1.3.1732._ArjhUuxyBM

http://biblelight.net/sukkoth.htm

http://www.askelm.com/star/star006.htm

How December 25 Became Christmas

http://www.crosswalk.com/special-coverage/christmas-and-advent/was-jesus-really-born-on-dec-25.html

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/holidays/2012/12/why_is_christmas_in_december.html

http://www.christiananswers.net/christmas/mythsaboutchristmas.html

http://blog.dictionary.com/xmas-christogram/

The “X” in “Xmas” Doesn’t Take the “Christ” Out of “Christmas”

http://www.cgg.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/Library.sr/CT/ARTB/k/568/When-Was-Jesus-Born.htm

http://www.hebrew4christians.com/Articles/Christmas/christmas.html

http://www.whychristmas.com/customs/25th.shtml

http://www.orlutheran.com/html/chrmas_pagan4.html

http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/False%20Religions/Other%20Pagan%20Mumbo-Jumbo/christmas.htm

http://www.lasttrumpetministries.org/tracts/tract3.html

http://www.hope-of-israel.org/cmas1.htm

http://biblelight.net/xmas.htm

http://mystery-babylon.org/christmas.html

Zip Code: 65785
A little about me… Normal
Updated: Nov. 2014

Hello, my name is CainO’ & I am an over the road HazMat Tanker Driver with dual Homeland Security, so I am defiantly of no threat. I have my own I.T. business on the side, I do aromatherapy; I bought some land in south central Missouri in order to get off the grid, produce our own healthy unprocessed chemical free food, utilities and etc.

I am doing my grid project with a friend David-Ray, he is single also and has a profile here as well: David-Ray’s Profile: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/David-Ray_4u?cf=search_overlay He is a Virgo, Libra Rising, Moon in Libra, Mercury in Virgo, Venus in Cancer, Mars in Cancer & Jupiter in Taurus.

I have been studying REAL astrology since 2012, I got deep into the astrology trying to save a dead relationship; but I now use it looking for astrological compatibility and to help others in their relationships both personal and business.

I am also sort of Psychic, though I never took it seriously to 2012. I have also studied Reiki and Numerology. I grew up Orthodox Christian, I call myself a Spiritualist. I still believe in Christianity; just not the way I was raised to believe.

I am a Leo/ Virgo Cusp, Libra Rising. We have over 40 signs in our astrology; my main influences in my chart besides the above is Aquarius, real astrology is more complicated them most people realize. I study eastern astrology for health, psychology and compatibility.

I am also into Yoga, working out, aromatherapy, alternative health, alternative energy, technology, Nature & Natural living. I am also a Freedom Fighter and an Independent, much like Ron Paul.

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A little about me… xXx

Updated: Oct. 2014

“Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.”
― Colette Dowling

I’ve had way too many Dark Dances of Death. I am tired of being lied to, cheated on, manipulated, belittled, walked on, spit on, used and abused! I own a xXxNetworking site, so maybe I should just become a porn star myself and not have to deal with having my heart broken anymore? I’m a healthy, attractive, fit 40yr old. Shoot; when I’m clean shaven, I still get carded 🙂 I have the right equipment (aka package) [S M {{L}} XL XXL], not too big and not too small, I’d been offered to do porn when I was younger; maybe now is a good time to start? Now I think I should have done it when I had the chance, but maybe this is my second chance?

If you interested in joining me in this new adventure, hit me up! You know the normal criteria, if u think u qualify, let’s talk! PS… Must be a Woman! Not into guys. Now this is new for me, so I will be kind of shy or nervous about it for a while, but “relationships” aren’t working for me, so I may as well try something new and enjoy my life while I still can; right? I will require STD tests for everyone and I will be getting them myself regularly! 3-6mo seems to be normal.
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A little about me… xyz

Updated: Nov. 2014

“Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.”
― Colette Dowling

The beauty in the dance is flowing seamlessly with your partner. I have learned that dancing too long with the wrong partner can bring much frustration, discomfort and even pain, depending on the depth of the struggle. We are all free and responsible for choosing the partner whose energy and style flow with us best.

I’ve had way too many Dark Dances of Death. I am tired of being lied to, cheated on, manipulated, belittled, walked on, spit on, used and abused! That is why I am doing astrology now and not jumping into the first relationship that comes my way anymore.
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About the one I’m looking for…
Updated: Oct. 2014
I am not looking to get serious anymore; friends, FWB or just dating for now. I started learning Astrology in 2012 & looking back, some of the best relationships I had were with women who were more astrologically compatible to me; so if I were to get “involved” again, that is where I am focusing my attention now days. “Astrology” and actually, even friends should be compatible astrologically also! The age range I am looking at is: Jan. 1970 to Dec. 1983 that is compatible to my Neptune & Pluto.

If I find someone who is truly astrologically compatible in the traditional “Eastern Vedic Astrology” compatibility criteria; I would consider getting more involved once again; but this time I will be way pickier! So if your compatible to Sun in Leo/Virgo cusp with an Aquarius House, Libra rising, Moon in Libra with Pisces House, Mercury in Virgo with Aquarius House, Venus in Leo with Capricorn House, Mars in Virgo with Aquarius House, born in the Year of Aquarius (aka Tiger), Jupiter in Pisces in the House of Leo, Saturn in Cancer with a Sagittarius House, Uranus in Libra with an Aries House, Neptune in Sagittarius in the House of Taurus and Pluto in Libra in the house of Pisces; then we can discuss something more serious. Otherwise, I am done with traditional relationships.

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How I feel about the Church…
Updated: Oct. 2014

Church is a good thing; only I don’t believe in one true church, or even one true profit except for Jesus. I grew up Nazarene, Wesleyan and Holiness; I studied Catholicism, Hindu, Buddhism, Judaism, Islam, Spiritualism, LDS, RLDS, FLDS, Unity and more. I use to call myself a Christian Catholic Buddhist, now I would say I am more Christian Spiritualist. In the LDS world, I would lean towards RLDS or FLDS rather than LDS and I do understand the differences. I like Buddhism because they tend to practice what Jesus preached, I just think they have the wrong god. I would say I am more in line with the natives in that I would be more inclined to believe in “The Great Spirit” and other ways they believe like loving the land and Jesus’s #2 commandment’s; Love God and Love thy neighbor.

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What I do for fun… My Hobbies and Interests…
Updated: Oct. 2014

I am into Yoga, working out, aromatherapy, alternative health, alternative energy, technology, Nature & Natural living. I am also a Freedom Fighter and an Independent, just like Ron Paul.

I like hiking, mountains, nature, technology, being creative, singing (changing the lyrics making songs funny and/or retarded), playing brain games & etc…. I enjoy outdoor activities; swimming, boating and canoeing, travel to the beach, working out, the gym, traveling, shopping, cooking, camping and BBQs with friends and/or family, trying new restaurants, “Chocolate” anything Chocolate  Don’t enjoy anchovies or Sardines!

I like socializing with friends and family, I love music of all cultures except polka type music. I do need my alone time, where I work on me and the voices in my head. I use to write poetry and music, but not so much anymore; I would make a good jungle writer. Honestly, I could have fun doing most anything. Twice true with that special someone and/or friends! I am a social person, I can only play games that involve 2-4 players and more.
Life can be fun. A quote I like was, ”When my children tell me they’re bored, I tell them that this is because they are boring and need to work on their rich inner life. Even accounting can be fun if you have the right jokes running through your head.”

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I’d just like to add…

My “BEST” matches are: Aries – March(25,26)1973, April(3,4)1977, April(9,10,11)1971, April(11,12,13)1977, April(13,14)1976. Libra; Oct(1,2,3)1983, Oct(3,4)1980, Oct(19,20)1973. Sagittarius, Nov(24,25)1979 & 12.21.69 Aquarius, Feb(3,4,7,8)1977. Leo, Gemini, Cancer or Virgo. I am still working on his; but basically Taurus, Capricorn, Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces, Virgo, Libra and Leo. These are not the only birthdays I am looking for, simply the best I have found so far astrologically; 4.14.84, 8.14.82, 8.22.82, 10.7.87, 11.24.1975 & 11.29.74 are good one also. I am also astrologically compatible to Taylor Swift, but that is way too young, her outer planets would be off and therefore maybe not compatible enough — Aries and Sag are my best, but I have a Moon in Libra, so a Libra with a Moon in Leo is a very powerful combination!

I am a Leo/Virgo Cusp – Compatibility’s are Aries, Sag, Libra, Gemini, Aquarius; maybe Virgo, Cancer, Leo, Taurus and Capricorn.

Libra Rising, Moon in Libra – Compatibility’s are Aquarius, Libra; maybe Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio, Leo or Sag.

Mercury in Virgo – Compatibility’s are Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo; maybe Cancer, Pisces, Scorpio, Leo or Libra.

I am Venus in Leo – Compatibility’s are Aries, Sag, Libra, Aquarius; maybe Gemini, Leo, Cancer or Virgo.

I am Mars in Virgo – Compatibility’s are Taurus, Capricorn, Cancer, Virgo; maybe Scorpio, Pisces, Leo but more than likely not Libra.

I am Jupiter in Pisces – Compatibility’s are Scorpio, Cancer, Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo; maybe Aquarius but maybe not Aries.

I was born in the year of the Tiger (aka Aquarius) – Compatibility’s are Libra, Gemini; maybe Aries, Leo, Sag, Pisces or Capricorn.

My two best relationships were; Dec. 17th, 1975 (Leo Asc.) and May 14, 1977 (Gemini Asc.) if this helps. You can go to DatingByTheSigns to learn more.

Pluto 10-5-1971 to 10-23-1983

 

Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners – Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death – The beauty in the dance is flowing seamlessly with your partner. I have learned that dancing too long with the wrong partner can bring much frustration, discomfort and even pain, depending on the depth of the struggle. We are all free and responsible for choosing the partner whose energy and style flow with us best. www.DatingByTheSigns.com