(Group Text) I wouldn’t B writing this unless she told me to. I was going to keep 2myself about all this; but she said 2ask any woman & swore they would agree with her. So, I’ll ask everyone then… Q? Does this sound like I want 2break up & just B friends w/ benefits or does this sound like I’m @ my wits end & I want 2fix the relationship or move on? I was trying 2convey the second, but I was accused of the first.I just want her 2stop being so mean & hateful towards me, is that too much 2ask?
CainO’ Sept. 27th. After yet another big fight:
This doesn’t seem 2B working out. We seem 2B going down hill instead of things getting better they seem 2B getting harder. If we can’t work things out like I’m sure we both want to, then we need 2look n2 trying 2salvage the friendship; because the last thing I want is for us 2B@ each others throats. I love U & care 4U, but this is getting out of control. I don’t know how or even if we can make this work, but it is what I want. Friend and/or Loved ones, those R the two I choose; which ever one will work… xoxooxox ….
Maybe I should have said “loved ones &or friends” instead of the other way around? We broke up the next day after another fight. I basically said, let’s try & resolve this or try & be friends. She chose friends, but she’s been badgering me nearly the whole time since. Which now makes me feel relieved that its over; anyway… we’ve been fighting off & on since Christmas, this is NOT my idea of a healthy relationship! If she can’t B nice 2me, I don’t even wish 2B friends anymore. I have already assumed responsibility… I compromised, I knew our Astrology was a bit off & B4 we got together while she was drunk one day, she warned me that she wasn’t a very nice person, there were a couple other red flags; but I proceeded anyway. I still care 4her, I just can’t take the abuse any-longer. I choose 2live, “Co-Dependent No More“; but that’s easier said then done… UR wisdom is welcomed! Thanx, CainO’
(End of Text)
——————————–
Today: Oct. 4th, 2014 – She asked me how I was to seem to get over the breakup so easily? I haven’t. One day someone told me that, “women morn during the relationship and men morn after the relationship”. I guess that makes me a woman? I have been doing my morning since Christmas 2013, so now it is her turn I guess.
She thinks that I am repulsed by her sexually, but it is hard for me to feel close to someone sexually that I feel is attacking me on a regular basis. Maybe if she tries to get along and not fight with me so much, I might want to have sex with her more. I am a VERY sexual person; with my Ex2012, I could never get enough! It wasn’t till after almost se7en years at the end of the relationship that she lost her sex drive “for me” because we were not getting along anymore, then I lost mine after I caught her going behind my back with two other men; though I only knew of one for sure. Now she is with the other one and is supposedly engaged to him, but that wont last; I know their astrology. Plus, leopards don’t change their spots. I know his criminal background and she cheated on her Ex husband before me with like over a dozen men, so past predicts future…
———————————————–
Today Oct. 8th, 2014 she decided she wanted to try and make it work. We broke up in Jan. for like three days, this is the second time we broke up and am getting back together. The next day we went on a date to the “Crater of Diamonds” in Arkansas and dug for diamonds all day 🙂 This time will be either “strike three your out” or the “third times the charm”. As long as she is nice to me, not mean and hateful; we can work through most anything…
———————————-
A couple days later, we broke again. This time for good! What makes me Co-Dependent astrologically? I think my Libra’s have a lot to do with that. I will have to look into it. My Pluto is Libra, Uranus is Libra, my Moon is Libra and my Ascendent is Libra. Libra’s are Nice, gullible, naive, looking towards the positives and ignoring the negatives; till it is too late. People often take Libra’s kindness as a weakness; Libra will give and give till they break, once you break a Libra there is no going back.
You might say my parents trained me to become a Co-Dependent, My father was an Alcoholic and my mother is still Co-Dependent. I was left to take care of my brother who grew up to be abusive, alcoholic and an addict. I finally started to break my codependency with my brother, but I think my mother helped me to start that possess too. I have a lot of Virgo in my chart and so I study things a lot. I studied my mother, I studied psychology, I studied myself and others. In 1995 I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and my mother was in a more abusive one with my now Ex-Step Dad. One day I was trying to rescue my mother when she told me something to the extent of, “You have no room to talk, you are still with Jennifer”. I will never forget that message! That was the day I decided to be “Co-Dependent No More”. I left her and started working on me; I am still working on me.
My mother and my brother was my biggest lessons and challenges. I had to “Let Go & Let GOD”. They were not and could not be my problem anymore; once everyone finally did that with my brother, he finally straightened up and is now living a healthier life. My mother is getting there too as am I. I think me learning how to move forward being less co-dependent, it has helped her do the same. Right now, she is doing good and I pray she stays that way. I am still working on being co-dependent free; a few years ago my mother gave me copies of a program called, “Co-Dependent No More” and I learn from it regularly. I would encourage anyone to get it!
————————————-
Videos: