“Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between the partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.” ― Colette Dowling ―
The beauty in the dance is flowing seamlessly with your partner. I have learned that dancing too long with the wrong partner can bring much frustration, discomfort and even pain, depending on the depth of the struggle. We are all free and responsible for choosing the partner whose energy and style flow with us best.
Hello, My name is CainO’ & I am a Recovering Co-Dependent.
What makes me Co-Dependent astrologically? I think my Libra’s have a lot to do with that. I will have to look into it. My Pluto is Libra, Uranus is Libra, my Moon is Libra and my Ascendent is Libra. Libra’s are Nice, gullible, naive, looking towards the positives and ignoring the negatives; till it is too late. People often take Libra’s kindness as a weakness; Libra will give and give till they break, once you break a Libra there is no going back.
You might say my parents trained me to become a Co-Dependent, My father was an Alcoholic and my mother is a recovering Co-Dependent as well. I was left to take care of my brother who grew up to be abusive, alcoholic and an addict. I finally started to break my codependency with my brother, but I think my mother helped me to start that possess too. I have a lot of Virgo in my chart and so I study things a lot. I studied my mother, I studied psychology, I studied myself and others. In 1995 I was in an emotionally abusive relationship and my mother was in a more abusive one with my now Ex-Step Dad. One day I was trying to rescue my mother when she told me something to the extent of, “You have no room to talk, you are still with Jennifer”. I will never forget that message! That was the day I decided to be “Co-Dependent No More”. I left her and started working on me; I am still working on me.
My mother and my brother was my biggest lessons and challenges. I had to “Let Go & Let GOD”. They were not and could not be my problem anymore; once everyone finally did that with my brother, he finally straightened up and is now living a healthier life. My mother is getting there too as am I. I think me learning how to move forward being less co-dependent, it has helped her do the same. Right now, she is doing good and I pray she stays that way. I am still working on being co-dependent free; a few years ago my mother gave me copies of a program called, “Co-Dependent No More” and I learn from it regularly. I would encourage anyone to get it!
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